When you were a high school student, it always seemed like you could never get away from the watchful eye of your parents. You could never escape them, their rules, and their advice. Now that you’re in college, though, it’s easy to forget about your parents. After all, you don’t live with them anymore. You don’t have to answer to them when you come in at night. And you don’t have to show them your grades anymore.
So how do you stay in touch?
Well, if you want to maintain a good relationships with your parents, you must set up a routine to keep in touch with them. In other words, you’re going to have to work hard to connect with your parents, especially in the busy college atmosphere you’ve suddenly joined. Why not set up a weekly time to call your mother or father? This could be a great time to reconnect with them each week and let them know what’s going on in your life. If you talk to them weekly, you won’t feel like you have to call every month and give a long update on the phone. The key is to keep in touch regularly so you can talk about new things each time, instead of reminding them of everything you do all at once.
Another thing to keep in mind is that you no longer have to allow your parents to see your report card. This means that your parents may not be connected to your academic successes and failures. However, it’s not a bad idea to keep them informed as to how you’re doing in school, especially if they’re helping you to pay for college. Tell them about your classes. Tell them about your favorite professors. Ask them for advice for when you deal with your professors who give you trouble. This will keep them involved in your academic career and make them feel as though they can help you when you need help.
Finally, see if you can schedule times for them to come visit. Certainly your school will have a parents weekend for freshmen students. This is a good time to show your parents what exactly your college experience is truly like. You can show them your dorm, your daily schedule, what you and your friends do for fun. And, if you’re lucky, they just might treat you to a nice dinner. Finally, if your parents can picture you going through the motions of your day, they’ll have a better time knowing you’re happy and successful at college once they leave.